OK, I am waiting for my body and me to join together in a new phase of life. I am aging gracefully, I thought. Then, my secret….vaginal dryness and resulting low libido. I finding out all kinds of information especially how common this issue is. My body and me begin to dialogue. “Body tell me what is happening…down there.”
The body responds….”I do not feel safe. You have been pushing me to have sex when I do not want to. Sometimes I do not even feel acknowledged that I am there. You demand a lot of me…you keep asking me to hurry. Don’t you know that I have had natural changes in hormone levels that means that I am producing less lubrication? When I feel pressure from you, I shut down the systems. Yes, I become dry. I hope you will begin listening to me. Help me out here.
“Body, what do you want me to hear?”
The body responds…”I need you to learn more about me, so gather information about hormone replacement therapy OR NOT. When you exercise, how about exercising me, the vagina, the clitoris? Stock up on the magical and all natural personal lubricant, Aloe Cadabra, in all three scents: Natural Aloe, Tahitian Vanilla, and French Lavender. Let’s have some magic getting to know each other gently and playfully. BE PATIENT.” Let’s keep talking…..coffee or tea…some fine wine?
Vaginal dryness is a common byproduct of peri menopause and menopause. It is common and yet can also be acute. Vaginal dryness is also associated with life’s events such as childbirth, hormone treatments, medications, and stress! Harsh soaps and other chemicals can take away from natural moisture. Stress certainly plays a large part in keeping our system naturally lubricated. The delicate vaginal tissues become less plyable, and cracks may develop that can invite in infection and discomfort. An unhealthy lifestyle, pushing oneself to the max will can have manifestations in vaginal dryness. These can include lack of sleep, and rest, too much caffeine, lack of exercise and even negative thoughts and emotions. There is a direct connection between the relationship of emotions, positive and negative, and the sexual response in body, mind and spirit.
