Posts Tagged ‘self pleasuring’

The Quickie: Lube

May 7th, 2010

Do you remember when lubricants were taboo to talk about? When you had to ask for lubricants from the pharmacist at your drug store? When there weren’t many options? When other intimate and feminine hygiene products weren’t talked about? Boy have things changed. I was recently out to lunch with a close friend, in her 30’s, who owns her own business and is highly successful. She asked what I was up to and I mentioned Aloe Cadabra.

Without blinking an eye she said, “do you know what a big deal that is? Sometimes, my husband and I (also a business owner) don’t have time for all the warm ups. This stuff would be awesome. We can get right down to things with a “quickie lube,” enjoy a great experience with each other and then move on to our hectic schedules, physically, mentally and emotionally fulfilled. We wouldn’t want to do that every time, but boy would it be great for those high stress times.”

We say bravo! Enjoy a quickie lube with yourself or someone you care about. Enhance it with a great all natural lube you can feel good about, like Aloe Cadabra. And enjoy all life has to offer. Even when there isn’t a lot of time to enjoy it!

Can I Use Backyard Aloe As a Personal Lubricant?

April 23rd, 2010

Well, we believe the better question is how much fun would it be to have sex on your hammock in the backyard? Or on your swing set? Or under the stars with a warm blanket and some good wine? Those questions withstanding, many people have used raw aloe as a personal lubricant. In fact, that’s how we discovered the magic of aloe and experienced our first of many magic moments! We picked it right from our fields, filleted it and used it as not only a lubricant, but also a moisturizer. It worked unbelievably well. But, it was a bit runny, was difficult to work with and took away the spontaneity (who wants to fillet an aloe stalk when they’re ready for something more)? And, you of course need to be careful to make sure you get all the dirt off, don’t leave any of the prickly skin or have any bugs. As with anything you put on or in your body, you should make sure you aren’t allergic and if you feel any discomfort, immediately stop using it.

Raw aloe can be sensual, slippery fun and potentially healing (the healing properties of Aloe have been known for some time). But why go through the hassle of filleting the aloe, keeping it cool, delicately insuring it there’s no dirt or bugs in it, when you can get the same effect with out it, in a ready to use bottle that also includes incredible fragrances from organic essential oils? When trying to figure out which lubricant to choose, a lubricant with a lot of aloe is great for you, so more can be better! Be sure to read the label carefully; many tout having aloe vera or other great things like Vitamin E, but when you get down to it, there isn’t much of it in the bottle. So, read the label carefully and always look for a product like Aloe Cadabra, which has more than 95% organic aloe vera, along with some incredible other food grade ingredients that help provide thickness, lubricity, sensual aromas and other great qualities that make it fantastic for you and your partner or by yourself. So, use that aloe in your backyard. Better yet, use Aloe Cadabra while in your backyard…under the stars!

Yes! Help for Vaginal Dryness is Here

April 19th, 2010

The topic of vaginal dryness is so common among women particularly between the ages of 40 and 60 that it is often a topic to be shared when the “girls” get together. Yes, it is a problem that forms a common bond, and has a definite effect on the sex life. Check out the facts below.

A healthy vagina, which is made up of many layers of cells, stays lubricated with clear fluid, which keeps the vagina healthy, elastic and noticeable when you are aroused. How much lubrication occurs is determined and affected by different factors such as: low estrogen, menopause, stress, fatigue, chemo therapy, medications, allergies, pregnancy, childbirth, drying and chemically based soaps, and of course emotional stress.

Dryness can cause irritation, itching and burning, avoidance of sexual intercourse, and lack of libido, thinning and drying of the vaginal wall. Emotional stress can be a huge factor in dryness. Many women believe and have heard that sexual drive/libido is supposed to go away during menopause. Literature and studies have shown, however, that sex drive is not automatically assumed to be a factor in menopause.

Some 80% of women report symptoms of vaginal dryness during perimenopause and menopause. Other studies indicate that 95% of women report some occasional vaginal dryness.

OK…those are some facts. Now let’s deal with some solutions and create healthy ways to have a relationship between the body, and sexual experiences. What can YOU do?

1. Drink plenty of water (not soda) to ensure that the body is well hydrated. Balance the diet. Add some nutritional supplements if needed.

2. Be careful about using harsh chemicals, soaps, douches and other products containing allergens, dyes and fragrances.

3. Exercise to increase the “chi” or chi energy and breath moving through the body.

4. Stimulate your sexual organs. Lubrication may take a bit longer, but it is still there. Spend time self pleasuring. With a partner, slow down, take your time.

5. Use some personal lubricant that is natural, and will help to restore your own vaginal moisture. Aloe Cadabra is a magical gel that is 95% organic aloe.

6. Affirm you! You may be getting older, but certainly sexual activity can be joyous and exciting. Keep the juices flowing.

CLICK HERE to read more from our multi-part exploration of vaginal dryness that discusses the causes, opportunities for enhancement, and ways to get your juices flowing led by Carolyn Braddock, a renowned educator, coach and wellness Professional.

Stressors and Natural Lubrication

April 15th, 2010

Do we need to name the main stressors we face daily? We suggest a few: financial strain, job stress, health concerns, relationship difficulties, and of course the kids. These stressors stop our bodies from feeling fluid (and fluidity in the mind, body, and spirit creates fluidity in natural lubrication of the physical and sexual body). We may not realize how much these stressors affect us until we try to do too much, and adding the pressure of sexual expression to the list of “I must and I should and I have to.” STOP, in the Name of Love,(as sung by the Supremes.) Our Super woman or Superman uniform becomes our life as we run to try to catch up (and we never do). Vaginal dryness is a HUGE factor in how we respond to stress. Choose to change this pattern NOW.

Take three steps back as you identify stress that clearly affects you, and your ability to breathe and move through life with ease. Then breathe three deep breaths….SLOWLY….SLOWLY…….SLOWLY. Now take a look at what must be done, perhaps making a list of the top four things that you are stressed about, and balance those things with some ways to balance YOU. Take a walk, put on some favorite music and let your body move, sing, play the drums, and BREATHE some more. Now open the drawer and take out your Aloe Cadabra and enjoy the moment of release into deep relaxation, fluidity, and JOY! Choose a scent that fits that moment. DO NOT think about anything else other than breathing and enjoying. (The stressors will wait.) Add some favorite fruit to engage your senses. HAVE fun and practice this way to balance life stressors and YOU.

CLICK HERE to read more from our multi-part exploration of vaginal dryness that discusses the causes, opportunities for enhancement, and ways to get your juices flowing led by Carolyn Braddock, a renowned educator, coach and wellness Professional.

Adult Check List for the Cruise

March 12th, 2010

I am packing for a long awaited vacation…a cruise with my honey. Check List; Sex toys, my favorite vibrator, feathers, bubbles, erotic books, sexy love making nightwear, call the cruise ship and find out if they have plenty of fruit (strawberries and chocolate), AND my favorite lube, Aloe Cadabra in my very favorite scent in the sexy purple bag…French Lavender. This may be a time to experiment with the other scents of Tahitian Vanilla and Natural Aloe. I am packing those too!. Now, the most important things are packed. I can’t wait. I grab the lube. I must have a quickie. I lie down and imagine the balcony of our room on the cruise ship, wind gently blowing, listening to the sound of the ocean waves. My honey is next to me. I can smell the lavender…so sensual. My excitement builds higher and higher. My orgasm is wildly rocking my body! As I relax I hear “Honey, I am home. Are we packed?” I answer “Yes. With all that we need!”

The Wise Woman: The Juicy Gift

March 5th, 2010

dropletLet my hair down, be natural, let the mischievous spirit out, and celebrate the wise woman that I am. Raise the flag….as I age I only get better, and sexual activity need NOT cease! I deserve to be slower, and have a deeper more relaxed enjoyment of sex, alone or with a partner. Bring on the Aloe Cadabra, the most magical natural, SMOOTH, and SILKY, JUICY lubricant ever. Bring on the vibrator, or those specially trained fingers who know what I like, and HOW I like it. Touch me all over. Ahhhhhhh. The excitement is building… coming… coming… COMING! I feel great and so relaxed. What a gift to give to me!

Nip/Tuck: Rubbing The Magic Genie

March 3rd, 2010

In an episode of the TV series, Nip/Tuck, a young woman begins to learn about her body, after recovering from surgery. The amazingly understanding nurse dimmed the lights in her hospital room, and gently and patiently encouraged the young woman to “rub the magic genie.” The orgasm that came was described by the nurse to the doctors as “Houston, we have lift off.” The young woman was in joyful tears as she said “it was like God waking up inside of me.” Such an uplifting and sacred experience.

Patience! Let’s Dialogue

March 1st, 2010

dry-flowerOK, I am waiting for my body and me to join together in a new phase of life. I am aging gracefully, I thought. Then, my secret….vaginal dryness and resulting low libido. I finding out all kinds of information especially how common this issue is. My body and me begin to dialogue. “Body tell me what is happening…down there.”

The body responds….”I do not feel safe. You have been pushing me to have sex when I do not want to. Sometimes I do not even feel acknowledged that I am there. You demand a lot of me…you keep asking me to hurry. Don’t you know that I have had natural changes in hormone levels that means that I am producing less lubrication? When I feel pressure from you, I shut down the systems. Yes, I become dry. I hope you will begin listening to me. Help me out here.

“Body, what do you want me to hear?”

The body responds…”I need you to learn more about me, so gather information about hormone replacement therapy OR NOT. When you exercise, how about exercising me, the vagina, the clitoris? Stock up on the magical and all natural personal lubricant, Aloe Cadabra, in all three scents: Natural Aloe, Tahitian Vanilla, and French Lavender. Let’s have some magic getting to know each other gently and playfully. BE PATIENT.” Let’s keep talking…..coffee or tea…some fine wine?

Sexual Lubricant Compatible with Condoms and Sex Toys

February 10th, 2010

blue-water-gelAlan and Michele at edenfantasys.com found Aloe Cadabra highly desirable for its natural (read: non-irritating) ingredients, although it didn’t stay slick and wet for quite as long as they’d have liked.

When put to use, Aloe Cadabra performs fairly well during vaginal sex and makes an excellent personal moisturizer for day-to-day use. It lasts for several minutes during sex before it begins to dry, but water will only re-activate for a few more strokes so it’s better to just add more. Aloe Cadabra never gets gummy no matter how much you use or how many times you re-apply it, and it’s safe for condoms and sex toys so don’t be afraid to use as much as you need.

Read the full review and make a comment of your own HERE.

Self Pleasuring After Work

February 2nd, 2010

hand-splashCandles are lit. I am home from work. This is a before dinner “quickie.” Smooth some lube on, so that I can “skate” into the lovely lips of my vagina. My fingers move in a circle as I breathe and feel the feelings building, massaging those magical pink folds of my clitoris. The feelings are building. Nothing else matters. Breathing, my sexual juices are exploding into pleasure. My heart is beating. I smiled. Maybe one more before dinner! What a way to come home to me.