Coach Betty is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) who is now drug-free after 15 years of pharmaceuticals to manage Rheumatoid Arthritis, and uses her writing, internet radio show, and personal coaching sessions to help others “optimize health, make transitions gracefully and live a life of joy and fulfillment.”

She recently interviewed Aloe Cadabra’s Carolyn Braddock, whom Betty calls “a straight shooter on talking sex.” Carolyn addressed the statistics which indicate that 80-95% of women experience vaginal dryness, shared information about our 97% organic aloe personal lubricant, and discussed “how to discover the inner sexuality that lives within you.”

Aloe Cadabra is “As Natural as Nature.” This product clearly fits with my work of over 40 years of specializing in trauma, and especially Sexual Trauma, which can clearly manifest in difficulties in relationships and sexual expression. (Sexual expression is one of my most favorite topics… besides golf.) I wanted to be able to help survivors to explore their sexuality, learn about sexual feelings, and FEEL them with the help of a product that is natural, and gentle, and free of harmful chemicals. There is an episode of a TV show, a young women describes an orgasm as “God waking up inside me.” To unwind sexual trauma is to celebrate the body, mind and spirit as a whole, what I call the many body voices of the body….hence my book called Body Voices.

When trauma is unwound, sexual expression may also be a celebration of a healthy, trusting, and loving relationship. The FIRST step in healing is AWARENESS, developing an awareness of what is being spoken and thought as well as awareness of body responses, sensations and feelings. The sexual journey is a rich one, demanding that we wholly explore, experience, and look at the old messages, patterns, and barriers to fullness. Many trauma survivors do not know their bodies – what their bodies look like, how they function, and where certain body parts are located. Then of course, there are the negative messages, shame and guilt.

I celebrate this natural product of 97% aloe… putting something so natural, clean, and that feels so good, silky, and smooth (not slimy) in such a sacred connection with the body, mind, and soul. The product is balanced and therefore helps to balance the user.

I know that my many years of experience (and silver hair) in the field of psychology, sexuality, and working with sexual trauma manifestations with clients and therapists nationally and internationally, would be valuable in helping to find a sexual lubricant product that looks good, feels good, and IS GOOD! Celebrate this product being available to help with the discovery of Self…the Self that is unwinding the trauma, to learn what feels good by experimenting with touching the body, and experiencing sensations….old feelings that may reoccur and remember the trauma, and new ones that empower. Experiment with a vibrator. Aloe Cadabra won’t harm sex toys. Go slowly…notice the feelings and where the body begins to awaken to sensations. Notice the thoughts. As a sensation begins to intensify, relax into it, and “ride the wave.” You are in charge of YOU now! This is YOUR body that belongs to YOU. Try out different scents: Natural Aloe, French Lavender, and Tahitian Vanilla.

Check out some of the earlier blog posts for some more ideas!

At dinner, I felt so much love… being IN love… as I put the ring on her finger, and looked forward to the time when the two of us become one in marriage. This was a slow down and relaxing weekend just the two of us. In my other pocket, I reached in for the colorful purple bag of Aloe Cadabra to enhance this very special weekend. Our bodies awakened to the scent of Lavender, as we celebrated the joy of this moment that we will remember always. We returned to our room with a view of the night skies with bright stars. Together we go to a place of ecstasy again and again. Yes, there is MUCH life in Death Valley.

Without blinking an eye she said, “do you know what a big deal that is? Sometimes, my husband and I (also a business owner) don’t have time for all the warm ups. This stuff would be awesome. We can get right down to things with a “quickie lube,” enjoy a great experience with each other and then move on to our hectic schedules, physically, mentally and emotionally fulfilled. We wouldn’t want to do that every time, but boy would it be great for those high stress times.”

We say bravo! Enjoy a quickie lube with yourself or someone you care about. Enhance it with a great all natural lube you can feel good about, like Aloe Cadabra. And enjoy all life has to offer. Even when there isn’t a lot of time to enjoy it!

But… what about our “emotional body?” We need that emotional connection, that exhilarating feeling of looking and really SEEING into our partner’s eyes, embracing the mind, body, spirit. We need to feel loved, wanted, and language that matches the loving heartfelt spirit. We need to have patience with allowing the natural lubrication to flow like a river of ecstasy. We need to create time, have space, and have an emotionally healthy connection….and then the magic happens. To have this connection means that we may also invite our natural juices to flow on their own. Often, we may add the gift of an all natural personal lubricant to join in this ecstatic journey. Aloe Cadabra with three scents of Natural Aloe, French Lavender, and Tahitian Vanilla, enhances the moment and deepens communication about what we like.

Stress in life…..do we need to name the main stressors we face daily? We suggest a few: financial strain, job stress, health concerns, relationship difficulties, and of course the kids. These stressors stop our bodies from feeling fluid (and fluidity in the mind, body, and spirit creates fluidity in natural lubrication of the physical and sexual body). We may not realize how much these stressors affect us until we try to do too much, and adding the pressure of sexual expression to the list of “I must and I should and I have to.” STOP, in the Name of Love,(as sung by the Supremes.)  Our Super woman or Superman uniform becomes our life as we run to try to catch up (and we never do).  Vaginal dryness is a HUGE factor in how we respond to stress. Choose to change this pattern NOW.

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CLICK HERE to read more from our multi-part exploration of vaginal dryness that discusses the causes, opportunities for enhancement and ways to get your juices flowing led by Carolyn Braddock, a renowned educator, coach and wellness Professional.

Join me this Wednesday March 10th to learn more about this fantastic new organic lubricant that is FEMALE FRIENDLY! Aloe Cadabra is dedicated to the healthy exploration of sexuality, sex, our bodies, our relationship to those things and how those they can increase our health, well-being, happiness and prosperity.

Listen to the interview on Blog Talk Radio!

The body responds….”I do not feel safe. You have been pushing me to have sex when I do not want to. Sometimes I do not even feel acknowledged that I am there. You demand a lot of me…you keep asking me to hurry. Don’t you know that I have had natural changes in hormone levels that means that I am producing less lubrication? When I feel pressure from you, I shut down the systems. Yes, I become dry. I hope you will begin listening to me. Help me out here.

“Body, what do you want me to hear?”

The body responds…”I need you to learn more about me, so gather information about hormone replacement therapy OR NOT. When you exercise, how about exercising me, the vagina, the clitoris? Stock up on the magical and all natural personal lubricant, Aloe Cadabra, in all three scents: Natural Aloe, Tahitian Vanilla, and French Lavender. Let’s have some magic getting to know each other gently and playfully. BE PATIENT.” Let’s keep talking…..coffee or tea…some fine wine?