Aloe Cadabra is “As Natural as Nature.” This product clearly fits with my work of over 40 years of specializing in trauma, and especially Sexual Trauma, which can clearly manifest in difficulties in relationships and sexual expression. (Sexual expression is one of my most favorite topics… besides golf.) I wanted to be able to help survivors to explore their sexuality, learn about sexual feelings, and FEEL them with the help of a product that is natural, and gentle, and free of harmful chemicals. There is an episode of a TV show, a young women describes an orgasm as “God waking up inside me.” To unwind sexual trauma is to celebrate the body, mind and spirit as a whole, what I call the many body voices of the body….hence my book called Body Voices.

When trauma is unwound, sexual expression may also be a celebration of a healthy, trusting, and loving relationship. The FIRST step in healing is AWARENESS, developing an awareness of what is being spoken and thought as well as awareness of body responses, sensations and feelings. The sexual journey is a rich one, demanding that we wholly explore, experience, and look at the old messages, patterns, and barriers to fullness. Many trauma survivors do not know their bodies – what their bodies look like, how they function, and where certain body parts are located. Then of course, there are the negative messages, shame and guilt.

I celebrate this natural product of 97% aloe… putting something so natural, clean, and that feels so good, silky, and smooth (not slimy) in such a sacred connection with the body, mind, and soul. The product is balanced and therefore helps to balance the user.

I know that my many years of experience (and silver hair) in the field of psychology, sexuality, and working with sexual trauma manifestations with clients and therapists nationally and internationally, would be valuable in helping to find a sexual lubricant product that looks good, feels good, and IS GOOD! Celebrate this product being available to help with the discovery of Self…the Self that is unwinding the trauma, to learn what feels good by experimenting with touching the body, and experiencing sensations….old feelings that may reoccur and remember the trauma, and new ones that empower. Experiment with a vibrator. Aloe Cadabra won’t harm sex toys. Go slowly…notice the feelings and where the body begins to awaken to sensations. Notice the thoughts. As a sensation begins to intensify, relax into it, and “ride the wave.” You are in charge of YOU now! This is YOUR body that belongs to YOU. Try out different scents: Natural Aloe, French Lavender, and Tahitian Vanilla.

Check out some of the earlier blog posts for some more ideas!

At dinner, I felt so much love… being IN love… as I put the ring on her finger, and looked forward to the time when the two of us become one in marriage. This was a slow down and relaxing weekend just the two of us. In my other pocket, I reached in for the colorful purple bag of Aloe Cadabra to enhance this very special weekend. Our bodies awakened to the scent of Lavender, as we celebrated the joy of this moment that we will remember always. We returned to our room with a view of the night skies with bright stars. Together we go to a place of ecstasy again and again. Yes, there is MUCH life in Death Valley.

Imagine… relief from tension of past exams with exam lubricants made from harsh chemicals… NOW, imagine relaxing the body during the procedure knowing that what is going inside the body is safe, gentle, clean and organic. Do not go to the OB/GYN without it! Tell all the physicians you know to USE THIS PRODUCT. It is a gynecological health ally and pH balanced to vaginal pH. No more harsh chemicals!

Some moms are magical… super moms… they do not have spare time. They cannot do it all, but they try. They are great at multi-tasking. They have “invisible eyes on the backs of their heads to check in with the kids.” They are important taxi services. They are special. Perhaps this weekend, mom can be celebrated for simply BEING mom!

Yes, let the kids go to the slumber party at their friend’s house so you can rekindle this special time together. Give her some flowers, chocolates, and purple bags filled with three scents of Aloe Cadabra: Natural Aloe, French Lavender, and Tahitian Vanilla… all as natural as nature, organic, and orgasmic. Make the whole day be about her pleasure. Begin with “breakfast in bed”, a wonderful “breakfast” of slow blissful touching, caressing, kissing, and massaging while whispering to her how special she is. Awaken her slowly with appreciations. Make love “with her” and enhance this magical moment with the Aloe Cadabra scents she loves and the smooth, silky product that helps this moment last and last. AND celebrate Mother’s Day many times during the year.

A healthy vagina, which is made up of many layers of cells, stays lubricated with clear fluid, which keeps the vagina healthy, elastic and noticeable when you are aroused. How much lubrication occurs is determined and affected by different factors such as: low estrogen, menopause, stress, fatigue, chemo therapy, medications, allergies, pregnancy, childbirth, drying and chemically based soaps, and of course emotional stress.

Dryness can cause irritation, itching and burning, avoidance of sexual intercourse, and lack of libido, thinning and drying of the vaginal wall. Emotional stress can be a huge factor in dryness. Many women believe and have heard that sexual drive/libido is supposed to go away during menopause. Literature and studies have shown, however, that sex drive is not automatically assumed to be a factor in menopause.

Some 80% of women report symptoms of vaginal dryness during perimenopause and menopause. Other studies indicate that 95% of women report some occasional vaginal dryness.

OK…those are some facts. Now let’s deal with some solutions and create healthy ways to have a relationship between the body, and sexual experiences. What can YOU do?

1. Drink plenty of water (not soda) to ensure that the body is well hydrated. Balance the diet. Add some nutritional supplements if needed.

2. Be careful about using harsh chemicals, soaps, douches and other products containing allergens, dyes and fragrances.

3. Exercise to increase the “chi” or chi energy and breath moving through the body.

4. Stimulate your sexual organs. Lubrication may take a bit longer, but it is still there. Spend time self pleasuring. With a partner, slow down, take your time.

5. Use some personal lubricant that is natural, and will help to restore your own vaginal moisture. Aloe Cadabra is a magical gel that is 95% organic aloe.

6. Affirm you! You may be getting older, but certainly sexual activity can be joyous and exciting. Keep the juices flowing.

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CLICK HERE to read more from our multi-part exploration of vaginal dryness that discusses the causes, opportunities for enhancement, and ways to get your juices flowing led by Carolyn Braddock, a renowned educator, coach and wellness Professional.

Take three steps back as you identify stress that clearly affects you, and your ability to breathe and move through life with ease. Then breathe three deep breaths….SLOWLY….SLOWLY…….SLOWLY. Now take a look at what must be done, perhaps making a list of the top four things that you are stressed about, and balance those things with some ways to balance YOU. Take a walk, put on some favorite music and let your body move, sing, play the drums, and BREATHE some more. Now open the drawer and take out your Aloe Cadabra and enjoy the moment of release into deep relaxation, fluidity, and JOY! Choose a scent that fits that moment. DO NOT think about anything else other than breathing and enjoying. (The stressors will wait.) Add some favorite fruit to engage your senses. HAVE fun and practice this way to balance life stressors and YOU.

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CLICK HERE to read more from our multi-part exploration of vaginal dryness that discusses the causes, opportunities for enhancement, and ways to get your juices flowing led by Carolyn Braddock, a renowned educator, coach and wellness Professional.

But… what about our “emotional body?” We need that emotional connection, that exhilarating feeling of looking and really SEEING into our partner’s eyes, embracing the mind, body, spirit. We need to feel loved, wanted, and language that matches the loving heartfelt spirit. We need to have patience with allowing the natural lubrication to flow like a river of ecstasy. We need to create time, have space, and have an emotionally healthy connection….and then the magic happens. To have this connection means that we may also invite our natural juices to flow on their own. Often, we may add the gift of an all natural personal lubricant to join in this ecstatic journey. Aloe Cadabra with three scents of Natural Aloe, French Lavender, and Tahitian Vanilla, enhances the moment and deepens communication about what we like.

Stress in life…..do we need to name the main stressors we face daily? We suggest a few: financial strain, job stress, health concerns, relationship difficulties, and of course the kids. These stressors stop our bodies from feeling fluid (and fluidity in the mind, body, and spirit creates fluidity in natural lubrication of the physical and sexual body). We may not realize how much these stressors affect us until we try to do too much, and adding the pressure of sexual expression to the list of “I must and I should and I have to.” STOP, in the Name of Love,(as sung by the Supremes.)  Our Super woman or Superman uniform becomes our life as we run to try to catch up (and we never do).  Vaginal dryness is a HUGE factor in how we respond to stress. Choose to change this pattern NOW.

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CLICK HERE to read more from our multi-part exploration of vaginal dryness that discusses the causes, opportunities for enhancement and ways to get your juices flowing led by Carolyn Braddock, a renowned educator, coach and wellness Professional.